Stop Explaining Yourself


Have you ever been super excited about a goal so you share it with your friend or relative and based on their reaction, you become demotivated or second guess yourself?

I have and I’m sure some of you have too.

Here’s the deal. You don’t need to explain yourself and what you are trying to accomplish. Let your actions show your goals.

In addition, why does someone else’s response to your goals have so much weight? Chances are, it’s because you doubted yourself all along and at the first sign of disbelief, you caved.

This makes you human so don’t beat yourself up. It’s an opportunity to grow.

We must realize why we continue to explain ourselves. Like I said before, it starts with a little doubt so we seek validation. When we repeatedly exhibit these behaviors over and over without follow through, it only deepens our disbelief in ourself so the cycle continues and the frustration mounds.

My advice is to say less and do more. Write it down on a sticky note and put it on your mirror or your computer at work. If you’re like me and love to talk, then don’t be afraid to say it. Leave out the “because” that generally trails behind before someone can ask. In reality, most people aren’t going to ask “why” and if they do, keep it short and sweet.

Susan: “What are you doing?”

Martha: “I’m working on my running because I want to run a marathon”

Susan: “Why?”

Martha: “Why not?”





If you walk away from that conversation, feeling less excited about your goal then 2 things need to happen:

  1. Reevaluate that friendship

  2. Toughen Up. You’ll never achieve anything in life if you fall short at the words of small minded people. Surround yourself with people who embody the attributes you want to embody.

Workout of the Day
“Triple Baseline”

3 Rounds:

500m Row

40 Air Squats

30 Sit Ups

20 Push Ups

10 Pull Ups

Rest 5 Minutes

Record all 3 scores